I'm currently standing in line waiting to get lunch for my co workers . Wearing a black suit and black heels , the line is long the crowd full of men . Let's talk about regret as I wait . Why am I reminded of regret ? Because as I stand here in a room full of testosterone and I'm being eyed like today's special I like to remind everyone why we should not regret anything .
Why not be with the one we love ? Why not take that job ? Why not go for our dreams ? Why not go do that bucket list ?
Do it !!! Whatever it is !!! Instead of dreaming do it !!!
Your going about your day , the sun shines bright the breeze is cool . Your driving in your car . Your hair is long and golden blowing in the spring air . Skin glowing , the phone rings ...
The music filters back to melancholy back drop where moments ago it drowned out everything around you . Your heart drops .
The blinders fall , the voice on the other end doesn't seem so friendly any more . They begin to tell you the story . About how one sentence falls to the pit of one's stomach turning to every regret , of why I didn't say I love you ? Why I worked so much and lived less ? Why I wasted so much time with people who didn't love me and left behind the one's who really did ?
I should've fought harder ! Traveled more!
Stood up to my enemies !
But there is no time left .
You hang up the phone . Realizing there's been a dial tone for a long while.
2 months to live they say .
Live every day as if it were your last . Take your blinders off . Ask your self . If I called you what would you change today?
I find that in losing a lost love for any reason , we ponder day and night how to get it back .
You can pray for the answer , google the answer , cry all night ... But nothing will help . In the end my advice is follow your heart . Fight for it one time and in that one time give it your all , and if it dosent work , walk away .
If they love you , they will come back. . Otherwise you deserve more . I know it's hard . But if they love you the way you love them they will find you . I promise . If they don't , I mean really it's their loss ..
I can't stress this enough. The one thing I have learned in my thirty ( something years ) Is be your self. I learned no matter what when you are dating or , just out in life , be you. We start dating someone new we dress their way, dye our hair a certain color. I am not saying not to be a better you , That my friends is a good thing. What I am saying is do not change you to be like them. For them to like you. The likeness should come naturally. We want acceptance so bad, and love , we do whatever it takes to get it. If that is the case they are not for you ) Love and acceptance should come naturally , flaws and all.
Again , if your love makes you want to try new things , this is a good thing. I am not saying not to do that. I am just saying don't change to gain acceptance. From anyone. Even friends.
I'll tell you a story. One day about 5 years ago . I had a terrible day at work. I was disheveled and my long blonde hair was in so many different ways. My dark brown eyes I am sure looked black. My mom took me to dinner at Claim Jumper. Their he was a 6 Ft tall dark hair , dark skin handsome man who stood before me. He worked their as a manager. He told my sister who also worked their that he thought I was a 10.
I'm a 10? I laughed. My point is , where your head high, smile on and always believe in your self. Because you never know who might fall in love with you , I mean he did and were still friends today ;)